Learner's definition of INSTEAD
— used to say that one thing is done or that one thing or person is chosen when another is not chosen, cannot be done, etc.
— often + of
I was going to write you an e-mail, but I decided to call instead.
I couldn't afford a new car. Instead, I bought a used one.
I don't have any milk—do you mind juice instead?
John couldn't attend the conference so Mary went instead. [=in his place]
They didn't choose me: they chose her instead.
She didn't want to live in the city and longed instead for the peace and quiet of the country.
I decided to call instead of writing. [=to call and not write]
Instead of buying a new car, I bought a used one.
They chose her instead of [=rather than; and not] me.
He had juice instead of milk.